Marriage is amazing. It’s fun, exciting, blessed and such an adventure.
Marriage is also hard. Blending two lives together, making tough decisions and navigating through all that life throws, is incredibly challenging. In the scheme of things, Collin and I’s four and a half year marriage is very short. But let me tell you, the tough stuff doesn’t wait until year ten or twenty. In our limited time as a married couple, we have already dealt with some tough stuff.
We still have so much to learn, but these posts will chronicle some things we have gone through, some advice, lessons we’ve learned, funny stories and just plain ol’ anything-but-boring married life adventures!
These are the marriage chronicles.
Vol. 1 | Gratitude
One thing Collin is so incredibly good at in our marriage, is showing his appreciation. Specifically at telling me thank you. That might sound silly, because really that is such a seemingly small thing, but hear me out.
We have an “old-school” marriage in the sense that I do most of the domestic duties. I cook, I do the laundry, keep the house clean and more. I must also now mention that Collin helps with those things when needed 😉 But mostly, it’s me. And you know what? I don’t mind to do those things because even though they are things I do daily, Collin still tells me thank you.
I can hardly remember a time I made dinner that he didn’t say “Thanks for making dinner tonight, babe.”
Or a time I did a million loads of laundry and he said “Thanks for getting all that laundry done, you rock.”
If I slave away cleaning up the house, I always get a “Wow the house looks great! Thank you for doing that!”
These are tasks that really are part of my everyday life, they’re mundane, but he always makes a point to thank me for doing them. This simple act makes such a huge difference. It lets me know that he appreciates the hard work I do. It also makes me feel proud that I did that task and that he noticed the work I put into it.
Maybe the biggest difference his gratitude makes, is that it causes me to do the same. When he helps me out around the house, or grills one night for dinner, instead of having the thought “well, finally he’s helping out.” I make sure to thank him because I know how good it feels. It causes me to thank him for some of the boring, everyday things he does as well.
Because of this simple thing that Collin is a rockstar at, he puts me in a better mood and influences me to be better in that area.
Do you and your spouse thank each other for the mundane, everyday tasks you do? Try it, see what happens. I am willing to bet it will be a change for the better in your marriage!